The Folly of Facebook

It was an ordinary evening. My husband and I were preparing to go to bed, but decided to check in on Facebook before doing so. Big mistake.

We eavesdropped on a young woman having a vicious cyber-argument with another. It was very colorful and would probably get her convicted in a court of law.

Another night I was awake for a late night feeding and saw someone venting about her lying, cheating boyfriend.

Still another posted photographs of herself scantily clad at underage drinking parties.

I've seen break-ups and make-ups, all played out on Facebook (or Twitter).

While we all do stupid things, most of us like to keep those things private. I have no desire to publish every stupid thought I have or broadcast arguments for all to see.

In this digital age, what you post is permanent. Someone can find it. Parents and potential employers alike can see what you're really like.

When I read teenagers pining away for significant others, I usually laugh. Not because their feelings aren't real, but because I remember how I was at that age. I'm glad there are no public records of my fleeting feelings. Old diary entries are painful enough.

When I see grown women discussing drunk driving excursions publicly, I wonder if they're still drunk when they're writing. It would be pretty sad if you're trying to beat a DUI, and the prosecutor has a printout of your own Facebook post to use against you.

Using caution is wise. The problem with social networking sights is that many people type first and think later. What I feel right now is bound to change. And while I may later delete the post, someone has already seen it. I would caution girls to hold off writing about your argument with your man. What if he sees it or hears about it and you're still together? Hold off posting pics of the wild weekend party you attended if your coworkers could be your Facebook friend. Refrain from using profanity if your aunt and dad also see your posts and don't realize that your language is reprehensible.

In God's Word, Job 28:18 teaches us that the price of wisdom is beyond rubies. As a woman, I often talk first and think later. I'm sure Tre will attest to that. As a writer, I must be conscious of what I put out there for others to see. So while we enjoy our social networking, we must be wise to protect our dignity and our future.